by Ginger on November 11, 2013

in Mom Thoughts

I was on solo parenting duty this weekend while N.C. was up in LA for a convention. It was…well, it was 3 straight days with my 4 year old, so it had its moments. Friday wasn’t a great parenting day, for a lot of reasons, although there were some nice moments, particularly during dinner when we had some fun playing games together. Saturday was a little better, but still not easy. And Sunday was my “ok, we’re going to have a pj’s and tv day” because I wanted us to both survive. It was a weekend where I don’t feel like I accomplished anything, but in reality I:

  • wrote 3 blog posts
  • swept the whole house
  • mopped the kitchen
  • did 5 loads of laundry
  • vacuumed the downstairs & the stairs
  • organized Jackson’s dresser & got rid of clothes that don’t fit him
  • put together a shoe rack & organized my shoes
  • did the grocery shopping
  • changed the sheets on the king size bed by myself
  • cleaned all the old food out of the fridge
  • did some Christmas shopping (from the comfort of my chair, but still)

I find it interesting that I feel like I did almost nothing, when reality shows something different. I mean, I didn’t run a marathon or anything, but it’s not like I just sat on my butt all weekend, ya know? It’s like if I’m not totally on my game in parenting J then none of the rest counts as “accomplishing” stuff. Which is weird, and frustrating in a “really you need to learn how to see the world as it actually is, not just how it feels in your head” kind of way.

Now, I know that part of the problem is that I couldn’t run around with J all weekend because of my ankle. J is very much a kid who NEEDS to run and burn off energy, which is why I took him to an indoor play place on Saturday, because I knew I couldn’t chase after him. I had done a little bit of light hearted not-really-running chasing him on Friday night, and whooo did I pay for it that evening. So I knew I couldn’t keep that up. And if J wants to run and jump and burn, then anything that is NOT that means he’s not totally happy. And I struggle with that, and how to deal with it, particularly when there’s ALSO a tipping point on the activity scale where he gets over ramped up or overtired, and then that’s a whole different set of issues. I clearly am not remotely at J’s energy level, and things like this ankle thing just make that more amplified.

But it looks like I’m going to have to figure something out, and fast:



So, one of the things I noticed this weekend was that I kept having little jolty/numb feelings in my toes, and of course, after my little not-chasing-chase my ankle was kind of achy, and, oh yeah…that big list of things up there included a fair amount of being on my feet. I figured that I had aggravated the sprain, but that it was no big deal. But just in case, I decided I’d do a quick dr’s visit on the way in to work today.

Where I got this. It’s something something tendons something something swollen something something nerves. I don’t know exactly. I could probably illustrate it if I could talk with my hands rather than have to use words and stuff. Anyway, the end result is this boot. For at least 2 weeks, up to 6. That was after the doc originally suggested crutches and I *literally* laughed in his face and told him, yeah, no, I have a 4 year old and stairs in my house. Crutches are a terrible idea.

So now, I really and truly can’t run around after my kid while I let this stupid thing heal. Which means we’re both about to get a crash course in how to deal when mommy can’t play chase/run around/etc.

This should be…interesting.

april November 12, 2013 at 4:57 am

That’s what my “lay around and do nothing” days look like too. I’m just not good at doing nothing.

Good Lord with the ankle though, I hope it really gets better quickly!

Lisa November 12, 2013 at 6:24 am

Ugh, I’m so sorry about the foot. That majorly sucks. Hoping for two week healing versus six!

agirlandaboy November 12, 2013 at 10:07 am

Those first two paragraphs and the list really hit home. It’s funny what things we consider “doing something” and what other things seem like they shouldn’t count.

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