by Ginger on June 7, 2011

in Downtime

This past weekend, N.C. and I took a little break and headed to Vegas for a short anniversary celebration. We spent one night with my mother in law, and then we left the kiddo with her while we spent a night on the strip. I’m going to write about our hotel/casino/food experience tomorrow (spoiler alert: OMG IT WAS AWESOME), but today I just want to focus on how even that ONE night…just one…was exactly what we both needed, not just to celebrate our marriage and each other, but to give ourselves a freaking break from the real world.

Things have been crazy busy. Stressful. Overbooked. Underpaid. Tense. Life has been taking us for a bit of a ride lately. We’ve been snippy with each other. We’ve been hard on ourselves. We’ve needed a break. I wasn’t sure that one day and one night would put a dent in the stress level, but we figured we should take what we could get. And thank goodness we did, because we came away from our weekend recharged.

We put our phones away and disconnected from the outside world (mostly). We put discussions of work on hold. We spent our time together talking about everything and nothing. We held hands and meandered. We had NO agenda, NO schedule. Nowhere to be, nowhere to go, no one to answer to. It was bliss. The only thing we had to do was…relax. Enjoy ourselves. Enjoy each other. I think it was an assignment we both relished.

Look, would I have liked a week to recharge instead of a day? Of course. But I’m honestly amazed at how much relaxing and enjoyment and decompression we were able to cram into 24 hours. And honestly, it actually gives me a little bit of hope and excitement, because it’s much easier to figure out one day weekend vacations than it is to figure out (or afford, or get the time off approval for) longer ones. So I feel like..maybe we can do this again? Sooner than a year from now? Maybe?

All I know for sure is I’m a better wife when I’m connected to my husband. I’m a better mother when I’m not walking a razor edge of pressure all the time. I’m a better employee when I’m not so stressed that I can’t keep deadlines and projects straight. And hell, I’m better to myself when I feel like I have air to breathe and space to think. It’s hard to remember how important even brief respites from the day to day can be until it’s been too long since you’ve had one and you realize you’ve not been nice to yourself or your family, you haven’t been on your A game with your responsibilities, and you haven’t been taking care of things (including yourself) with anything more than “it’s done that’s good enough” mentality.

This weekend was exactly what I needed, not just for right now, but also for the reminder for the future. To reiterate (again) that recharging isn’t a luxury. It’s a necessity.


Megan June 7, 2011 at 3:34 pm

I totally know what you mean.

So glad you had the chance to recharge!

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks June 8, 2011 at 6:58 am

I couldn’t agree more. My husband and I haven’t taken a vacation day yet this year. Mostly because we took off so much time late last year with the birth of our son. But, it’s catching up to us and it shows. We have a 2-week vacation coming up in late July, but we’ve talked about taking one day off for a staycation this month. A day without plans that we can use to explore the city, sit in a park or take a mid-afternoon nap … whatever floats our boat!

Ginger June 8, 2011 at 9:13 pm

Funny, I’m working on a post preaching the EXACT same thing – how important it is to recharge and rekindle that romance w/ your spouse. My hubs and I just returned from 5 (!!!!) days away and it was awesome. So glad you guys got that chance too!

Amy {frugan} June 9, 2011 at 12:07 am

I love this. It strikes such a chord with me. We have a hard time thinking about a kong trip away but every time we even just go out to dinner alone (not often), we remind ourselves that we don’t need to make it such a big thing. Quality time doesn’t have to be a week or nothing. It can be shutting off the tv and phones and drinking a glass of wine on the couch and talking. Now, if only I would remember that more often. So glad you guys did this!

clara June 9, 2011 at 8:09 pm

It’s amazing how much relaxation you can cram in when you have to (and when you’re used to cramming things in!) … I am so glad for you that you had that chance to chillllllllll.

Perpetual Breadcrumbs June 10, 2011 at 4:00 pm

Glad you got to recharge, lady!

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