Ask the Internet

by Ginger on April 28, 2010

in Random

I’m incredibly intrigued by formspring–I can’t imagine anyone being SO interested in me that they must hear my answers to their questions lest I never cover them on my blog (though by all means, if you’re that interested in me, let me know! ha!). But I love reading other people’s–I could spend hours reading them just because it brings up one of the reasons I love reading blogs which is to see how other people think. As I read people’s formspring pages though, I always find myself wishing I could ask them questions about my life and get their take on it. So rather than asking “what is your favorite food” or whatever, instead ask, “hey what food should I be trying?” Sort of a reverse formspring–I ask the question and get the internet to answer for me.

And then I remembered I have a blog, and I have really smart, interesting readers (who are gorgeous and svelte and fashionable and have great hair to boot, and maybe if I compliment them enough they’ll all answer my questions?!), so why not just ask here? I know, it’s kind of a DUH moment, but whatever, I’ve been sleep deprived around here.

So, below you’ll find my questions for the first ever ASK THE INTERNET. Come on, you can tell me the truth!

1. Any tips for teaching my kid to not bite while nursing?

I’ve tried taking him off the breast while saying no, I’ve tried holding his nose (which does get him to let go, but doesn’t prevent him from doing it again), and I’ve tried ending the feeding session for the time being. I’m being ripped to shreds and this is not a good thing.

2. What do you think of taking a short (4-5 day) cruise with a baby?

I’m still looking for vacation ideas and someone mentioned the idea of a cruise. I can’t help but feel like we’d be those annoying parents ruining everyone else’s vacation–the kid is loud even when he’s happy and middle of the night crying isn’t going to make us any friends–but then how would it be any different from being in a hotel?

3. What kinds of things do you have on your walls? (Living room, dining room, master bedroom in particular).

We’re looking for some nice wall decorations for our house. We have art (hello, married to an artist!) but we’re starting to think we need other…stuff. Like what, I don’t know, but that’s why I’m asking you guys!

4. I found this pair of pants at Ann Taylor Loft that they call denim leggings. Good idea? Bad idea?

On me, they’re a little baggier than in that photo, but would function somewhat like a skinny jean (but way more comfortable), in that they are skinny and I would only wear them with long, loose tops. However, I am NOT a small size–if I’m honest I’m *GULP* either a 12 or 14–so the idea of skinny pants seems insane for me. But I like some of those flowy tops that really need a skinnier pair of jeans than I’m willing to put on. Internet, I need your help. Yay or nay?

5. What’s your favorite pair of shoes?

I’m in the market for some new ones…

Note: If for some reason you would like to answer anonymously, just put for the email address–I promise I’m way too lazy to follow IP addresses because holy crap who has time for that?

Lisa April 28, 2010 at 12:36 pm

I’m with you on the stuff for walls. I see these pictures of people’s houses where they have shelves with all these perfect little knick-knacks and vases and I want to know how they do that!

My favorite pair of splurge shoes are my Cole Haan peep toes (Nike Air soles!) The ones I’m usually wearing are a new pair of Born ballet flats. Comfy and plain.

Ginger April 29, 2010 at 12:14 pm

Wow, I checked out some of the Cole Haan shoes–so gorgeous! I may ask for a pair of those for my birthday…so pretty!

Kris April 28, 2010 at 3:22 pm

Whooo… a chance to offer my opinion, I love it! 😉

1. Any tips for teaching my kid to not bite while nursing?

No. I wish I did. The first time it happened, I wasn’t expecting it and totally screamed in pain. All it did was scare her and she went on a nursing strike at ten months. So we stopped nursing. 🙁

2. What do you think of taking a short (4-5 day) cruise with a baby?

I’m not a cruise person, but if you are, you should take your kid. Who cares what other people think.

3. What kinds of things do you have on your walls?
Other than the odd photo or poster, our walls are still sort of bare. My downstairs half bath has my collection of horror movie posters from the 50s in it.

4. I found this pair of pants at Ann Taylor Loft that they call denim leggings. Good idea? Bad idea?

Me, I’d stay away from denim leggings, I hear denim leggings and I think of those acid washed ones you could get in the 80s. I’ve heard really good flattering things about these skinny jeans from the Gap. ( I’m thinking about getting a pair and I’m a 14/16 curvy gal. 🙂

5. What’s your favorite pair of shoes?
Last year I bought these Keds ( and I’m so excited for the warmer weather so I can wear them again.

Ginger April 29, 2010 at 12:20 pm

Ok, first of all, those shoes are so cute and so fun. I wish Zappos had them in stock, I’d order a pair right now.

I’ll have to check out the Gap jeans, since a couple of you commented about those. I’m coming out of whatever haze made me think the denim leggings were a good idea 🙂

Perpetua April 28, 2010 at 3:23 pm

Oh, this is so fun!

1. Don’t breastfeed, duh. 🙂 TOTALLY kidding. But we don’t, so I got nothin’.

2. Cruise sounds like a great idea. You get the benefits of seeing a few new places with the stability of a mobile hotel room, so it would be easier on the baby, I think. If you’re really worried about being “that family,” maybe try something family-friendly? Not a Disney cruise, but maybe something that seems like it would welcome kids.

3. We’ve got art (MIL is a painter), some pictures, and our ketubah (kind of like a marriage certificate thing). Nothing exciting or interesting. We also live in an apartment, so our options are limited.

4. Hmm…jeggings…those look really cute, actually. I say go for it. I am not even close to thin and can pull off skinny jeans if I wear a long top, so you should be good.

5. Oh god, I’m back in my pregnancy shoes, because they’re just so damn comfortable. But if I’m trying to look decent I still like pointed-toe flats (are those out of fashion?). I’ve seen some people in oxfords looking really cute, but I don’t think I could pull it off.

I’ll say it again: questions are so fun. 🙂

Ginger April 29, 2010 at 12:24 pm

I’ve told my husband that if J doesn’t curb the biting thing shortly, I’m going to have to stop nursing because my god the pain. I mean, he’s only got two teeth, I can’t imagine what it will be like when the top ones start to come in.

And I totally can’t pull off oxfords. I’ve tried, but it just doesn’t work for me.

Alexis April 28, 2010 at 5:02 pm

Can’t help with the boob stuff, we are bottle babies here.

As for the cruise, DH and I went on one sans kids and it was great and I can totally see how doing with a small-ish one would be fine. Its a big ship with lots of options for dining, hanging out etc, you can find kid-friendly areas no problem. Ours even ran a daily story time so that would be cool. Only warning, many ships don’t allow non-potty trained kids in the pools, not sure if that is a deal breaker, but look into it.

Jean leggings, I am assuming you have the needed discretion to not wear it with say a crop top or layered neon tube socks, so if they work with a top or two, go for it!

Walls…so not helpful here between our perpetual renter status and the kids and my laziness, ours are pretty bare…lets face it our house is decorated entirely by Little Tykes.

I love shoes, and won lots of great pairs, not a single one being useful for day to day so please share what you do find out!

I like this idea, now I can be bossy but it is okay since you asked!

Ginger April 29, 2010 at 12:28 pm

Yeah, lots of the ships I’ve looked into have toddler programs, which is obviously older than Jackson but at least shows me they’re open to kids in theory. The no pool thing is a bummer, but makes sense.

Kt April 28, 2010 at 4:33 pm

Can’t help you on the baby questions, but please for the love of god, do not buy jeggings. I am not a fashion maven, but they are the ugliest things I have ever seen.

Ginger April 29, 2010 at 12:26 pm

See, this is what I needed from you guys. Because for some reason my brain went mute when I tried on the comfortable jeggings. This is why I need a stylist (or at least some girlfriends to go shopping with!).

Kathleen April 28, 2010 at 5:17 pm

I don’t think anyone should wear jeggings. But then again, I loath anything that seems 80’ish. And some people really can pull the 80’s look off with style. I am not one of those people. Maybe you are? But I would say proceed with extreme caution!

Ginger April 29, 2010 at 12:29 pm

I can barely pull off anything with style–most days I go for…without stains 🙂

But I’m definitely getting the no vibe for the jeggings.

Kate April 28, 2010 at 7:03 pm

One of my favorite things in our on house is a ginormous mirror. The previous owners left it – probably because they didn’t want to cart it around – and I groaned at the thought of keeping it. But, it is really a wonderful addition and totally brightens up a dreary day. Another thing we did with our walls is COLOR. Big, bold, bright, in-your-face color. You can’t go wrong with a coat of paint.

Biting while nursing…hmmm… nursing gets really hard at this age. Beckett would get distracted all the time, unlatch, snack a little, then my milk would dry up because she was nursing long enough, then she would get distracted because she wasn’t getting enough milk, which made the milk dry up more….it was a vicious cycle. But, we stuck it out. As far as biting – my only suggestion is scream like a banshee. It worked like a charm – but, did give my husband a near heart attack.

Ginger April 29, 2010 at 12:31 pm

I screamed the other day, and it scared Jackson, but not enough to not do it again 3 minutes later. Gah!

We’re slowly getting to paint–we did our master bedroom a few weekends ago, and will probably do the dining room next (for ease, no moving of giant furniture)…our landlords JUST gave us the ok a few weeks ago, minus the nursery, so it’s definitely in the plans.

Her April 29, 2010 at 1:09 am

STEP AWAY from the jean leggings, haha. I have the ‘Always Skinny’ jeans from Gap, and they’re ridiculously flattering. Also, Gap vanity sizes, so it’s nice squeezing into a slightly smaller number. If you go with them, buy one size tighter than you think you need. They stretch out like whoa.

We don’t have anything on our walls yet, but I have a few photo arrangements planned for when we move in June.

Ginger April 29, 2010 at 12:32 pm

See, I need you guys to talk me off the ledge (of leggings)! You’re the second person to mention the Gap jeans, so I’ll have to check them out.

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks April 29, 2010 at 7:11 am

As a non-parent I have mixed feelings about choices parents make regarding their children. On one hand, I think it’s important for parents to continue doing what they did without kids … and whether that means getting a babysitter for date night or introducing their children to new things … it’s imperative not to turn their lives into kiddyland all the time.

That said, I think there are plenty of reasons not to include children certain places. Maybe it’s because you know your child is loud and rambunctious and needs room to run around and play and that’s just not possible in a china shop. =) Or maybe it’s because the venue really is for adults and no matter how well-behaved you and your child are, others will feel put out.

That said, there are plenty of family-friendly cruise lines where I don’t think you’ll feel like you’re imposing on someone else’s vacation at all. Go for it!

Ginger April 29, 2010 at 12:38 pm

I think about that a lot too–we try really hard to be aware and when possible, appropriate of where we bring the kid and when (so you know, early dinners out for example). Because that’s part of the responsibility of being a parent and being thoughtful about other people.

But there are times where it’s not possible. So then it’s about trying to judge how we mitigate the discomfort to others while doing what we need for ourselves and the kid (to an extent, you can’t please everyone and kids are people too. But that’s another topic for another day). And, we do want to raise Jackson to experience things and learn to be around others too, so there’s that to think about.

The cruise is tripping me up a little because every ship I’ve looked into has kid programs–every single one–but then you read about how this one is really more of a party line so not appropriate for kids, or how this one is really more geared towards seniors so not appropriate. The disparity between what the ship offers and what I’m reading on the internet is part of what’s throwing me for a loop.

Rebecca @ Diary of a Virgin Novelist April 29, 2010 at 12:47 pm

2. Do it. Take the baby and just do it. Don’t worry about it.
4. Give them a try. I am on the larger end of things and I find that dark tight pants with long flowy tops can actually work. The shoes will be essential to get right though.
5. What kind of shoes? ONITSUKA TIGER BY ASICS ULTIMATE 81 are my fave, walk around NYC pair but I bet you are looking for something fancier?

Dana April 30, 2010 at 6:06 am

Nursing–It’s a given that every baby is different. With my two little ones, the things that you have tried really worked. Especially, ending the nursing session and being consistant. But, with my Jackson 🙂 . . .he always seemed, to me, to be a very old soul (for lack of better words). I’ve always been able to talk to him like a grown up. Maybe try this, calmly pull him away and make eye contact with him and explain to him what he’s doing to you. It hurts and please stop. kiss kiss snuggle snuggle. Sounds silly, but it worked for me.

I’ll be interested to see how the cruise turns out. I haven’t been on a cruise without the kids for the the same reasons. But, I will say that when I see other people’s kids crying or being difficult, it doesn’t bother me at all.

And as far as wall decor–You have such a love for words. What about a cool poem, or a few quotes?

And about the leggings. I’m the same size as you and I usually stick with the boot cut or wide leg jeans. I need a stylist too. There is a website called myshape that has you take all of your measurements and they pull up outfits and items that will fit you. kinda fun. but lots of measuring.

Feedbark July 10, 2010 at 4:53 pm

We don’t really understand the hype with Formspring either. It really came up out of no where, and plays to everyone’s sense of vanity.

However, a few of us recently tried to create something similar that might be more useful. You get to ask questions and get anonymous answers. That way you can just ask something to the world, or ask something more specific and get your friends to respond.

Feel free to check it out and let us know what you think. It’s currently in open beta at


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