A Non-Recap Recap of PJs at TJs

by Ginger on February 27, 2013

in Blogging & Social Media, Downtime

This past weekend I hitched a ride (thanks for hauling me Sam!) to Phoenix to hang out with a bunch of internet ladies in the best pajama party I’ve been to in a good decade or two. Seriously, if you ever get a chance to lounge around in your pajamas, stuff your face with pub cheese and candy (but not together), talk yourself hoarse and laugh until your sides hurt with the internet IN PERSON, I highly recommend it.

There’s really no good way to recap the weekend. It was a lot of talking, a lot of laughing, a LOT of (omg, so much) eating. It was a little nervousness and a little awkwardness. It was very, very loud. It was filled with cool people and even though there were only 25 of us, I STILL managed to not talk to everyone while I was there. It was…it was a really great weekend hanging out with girlfriends. They just happened to be girlfriends I (mostly)only knew online.

This trip really and truly solidified something a few things for me:

  • There is, for me, no difference anymore between “internet friends” or “blogging friends” and “real life friends.” If we are friends, we are friends, no matter the origin. I care about these women, I care about their families and their jobs, I want them to be happy, I want to be there for them if they need me, I know about the struggles and triumphs they are willing to share, and if that doesn’t make us friends, I don’t know what does.
  • I may never get over my inclination to hang back in group settings, but going to these types of events has helped me push past my discomfort SO MUCH MORE than before. It’s never going to NOT be awkward for me to walk into a room full of people who are already talking with each other, but at least I’m learning to (eventually) walk up and join those conversations.
  • It is very, very, very good for me to take time like this for myself.
  • I think more people should take time like this for themselves.
  • My desire to meet all my internet friends in person has only intensified after this weekend. Because spending time with friends? Is awesome.
  • I will never ever do a recap post that links to everyone I met for sheer terror that I will leave someone out. But just know they were all awesome. Ladies, you were all awesome.

One last thing I want to say: TJ was the most gracious and thoughtful hostess, going out of her way to make sure everyone was accommodated and fed and welcomed. She has a very, VERY clear vision for what PJs at TJs should be, and she works damn hard to see that vision out. I’m tired just THINKING of all the planning that went into the weekend, and all so I could sit around in my pajamas!  She has worked incredibly hard to make the event inclusive (she REALLY means it when she says anyone, yes, anyone! is welcome to come to PJs), and something that is just easy and relaxing and fun for the people who come. And she’s probably going to hate that I’m gushing about her, but damnit, there wouldn’t BE a PJs at TJs without..well…TJ. The whole weekend rocked, because she rocks.

meanliving February 27, 2013 at 10:26 pm

Stay slim and buckled in! With your asphalt-flavored drink!

Charleen February 28, 2013 at 6:47 am

Yes, TJ does rock. If ever I were going to go to a bloggy sort of gathering, it would be PJ’s.

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks February 28, 2013 at 8:34 am

I went to BlogHer a number of years ago and I was one of the few people who didn’t LOVE it. I mean, it was fun, but it was also too big for me. I think it’s awesome you were able to go to a blogger hangout of 25. Seems like the right number of people to still feel the energy/buzz without being overwhelmed by just how many people are there.

Lara February 28, 2013 at 10:27 pm

I was so happy to meet you! I enjoyed our convos at the table, away from the louder living room conversations. And I so know what you mean about hanging back and feeling odd joining a conversation in progress. But we did it! And I’m so glad we did and we met and I’m sure we’ll meet again – hurray!

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