Solo Parenting Vacation

by Ginger on November 3, 2012

in Mom Thoughts

I’m solo parenting this weekend while N.C. is off doing a convention in LA. He’s busy arting it up, and I’m taking kid duty all weekend.

At first, I was mostly nervous about the idea of being trapped with my 3 year old at home for 3 days–we only have one car, and this is one of those few times when it’s ridiculously hard to have one car. So I decided to rent a car to deal with that issue. The woman at the rental car counter burst out laughing when I told her I was renting a car solely to have an escape route with my 3 year old. And then J came into the building–5 minutes later she understood.

I had to take yesterday off so that N.C. could head up to LA, and I ended up having a totally fun day with the kid. He was cute and funny and went with the flow all day(not saying he didn’t have some tantrums, but they were manageable). I got to take him to swim lessons (yes, we’re still doing swim lessons in November), and share french fries with him, and play silly games with him. It was a nice day.

I feel a little like this is a “vacation” for the both of us. I’m trying to do things that I wouldn’t normally do, or that there’s not always time for. This morning we played “hide from the monster!” for 20 minutes (the game is very complicated. Jackson yells A MONSTER IS COMING! And then we hide under the covers). Last night we pretended to be dinosaurs around the house for half an hour before dinner. I’ve ignored the “schedule” in favor of just…doing. We don’t always get to do that–life happens, stuff has to get done, and managing all the stuff that has to happen for a family of three (with one car) can mean that sometimes you have to stop the monster game to make it to school on time. And there’s stuff to do this weekend, for sure (OMG I leave for New Orleans in 5 days!!), but something about the fact that we’re on our own this weekend has made me say that THAT is more important than running a million errands.

Day to day life as a parent, whether you’re working outside the home or not, can get caught up in the schedules and the routines and the needs and shoulds and have-tos. It’s nice, on occasion, to remember that it’s ok to stop, to get off the hamster wheel of the day to day. It’s ok to play longer and work less, to let your kid call the shots on how your time is going to be spent. It’s ok just stop and run around playing chase and laugh and laugh and laugh and laugh and laugh.

clara November 3, 2012 at 7:07 pm

Totally! It’s so much fun to just let them call the shots. I actually look forward to those nights when I am solo parent (or the, ulp, week that my SA is going to be away in December, maybe not so much that…) because I cut myself way more slack and have more fun as a result.

Erica November 3, 2012 at 8:57 pm

I solo parent so much I can’t even think how it could be a vacation. But I agree that sometimes you just have to go with the flow. I love your monster game.

Hope November 4, 2012 at 6:32 pm

I solo parented for most of the weekend, but it’s a lot less fun with tiny babies than it is when they’re kids. :p

Jesabes November 4, 2012 at 8:24 pm

Our weekend was like that a couple weeks ago. My husband went out of town and I just assumed I’d accomplish nothing at all, so the kids and I kind of floated through the weekend doing whatever they wanted. It was so wonderful I almost cried when it was over.

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