The outsider

by Ginger on March 30, 2011

in Random

So you know how we all do that thing where we look at the search terms that bring people to our blogs, and either laugh, cry, or cringe?

Well, let me tell you what the top search term to my site has been for the last week. Are you ready?

“I’m a loser.”

This…bothers me folks. For a lot of reasons. First of all, let’s get utterly selfish for a sec. I’ve been kind of down on myself the last few days (stupid PMS), and the last thing I really want to see every day staring me in the face is the phrase “I’m a loser.”

BUT, even more than that, I’m really sad that someone would type that into Google, and show up here, looking for…well, I don’t know what. What are you looking for if you type that into Google? I’m about 99% sure my blog comes up because of all the times I mentioned the Biggest Blogging Loser (at least that’s what it looks like when I do my own little google search), but I get the feeling that whoever is typing that isn’t looking for info on my–or their–weight loss.

People who are using the phrase “I’m a loser” are, I’m guessing, looking for something different.

I know I’ve felt that way. I know I’ve felt like the lone freak in the room, the last one picked for kickball, the one no one wants to talk to at the party. I was lucky to (mostly) accept my geek cred growing up: marching band was awesome, being a bookworm soothed my soul, being the goody-two-shoes, well, that was just a bonus for my parents. But that outside edge…I’ve been there.

I put myself in that place sometimes, even now. I try not to do it, and I don’t often, but I think it’s built into most of us to compare. And for some of us, it’s built in to sometimes see what’s lacking rather than what matters.

Heck, I know I’ve called myself a loser, and often. I’m joking about 99% of the time, but yep, there’s that 1%…

I don’t know what my point of this post is. I guess I would hope that someone who finds my site by searching “I’m a loser” reads this and maybe realizes that most people feel that way about themselves at some point. I would hope that I don’t add to that. I might wish that they could see that calling themselves that just serves to continue to beat down on their self-esteem. Who knows, maybe I’m just talking to myself.

All I know is that all I can see the last few days are those words. And I don’t want to internalize THOSE words. So I’m trying to answer them.

Elizabeth March 31, 2011 at 1:27 am

Yeah, those aren’t good words to internalize, but I suspect we all do it at some point.

Law Momma March 31, 2011 at 9:46 am

I feel like a loser at least seventy-three times a day. Honest, I counted. But you are most definitely not a loser! I liked this post a lot because I think so many people feel like they’re the ONLY ones who feel like that.

That being said, I found this post by googling “I’m a loser.”

No, No I didn’t. 🙂

Carolyn (temysmom) March 31, 2011 at 10:01 am

That is really sad. What must people be thinking to actually have to search for those words. Hopefully they were looking for something to make them feel better… and maybe your blog did just the trick!

Katherine March 31, 2011 at 12:27 pm

Maybe they are trying to get the lyrics to Beck’s song?

clara March 31, 2011 at 2:02 pm

There’s also a Beatles song called I’m a Loser.

It’s the most wonderful thing about the Internet, I think, that we can find our people, our tribes. With a click or a search or a … whatever. We’re all out here, flailing, doing our best.

Brooke March 31, 2011 at 2:12 pm

It should be able to tell you what the landing page is so you know which post is triggering the search result. For what it’s worth, I get a lot of traffic to my mom blog with the term “baby boy peeing.” I don’t even want to know what those people are looking for.

Caren with a "C" March 31, 2011 at 3:29 pm

I’m a loser… of weight (well not really, but I can hope!)
I’m a loser… of bad habits.
I’m a loser… of bad thoughts.
I’m a loser… of clutter.
I’m a loser… of bad eating habits.
I’m a loser… of sleep. (that’s true!)

Maybe you could turn it into something positive!

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