I need a day to myself, but not for anything fun

by Ginger on February 2, 2011

in Day in the Life

You know what I could really use? A full day, unencumbered by work or child or husband, to take care of stupid annoying life stuff.

I need a day to go to three different doctors, a dentist, talk to a financial planner about what the eff happened with my old 401k, work on our taxes, do some back end work on all three blogs, do some work for consulting clients and then, if I still had some time, maybe, just maybe, get a pedicure.

If I had to name the MOST stressful thing about being an adult, it’s this–this balancing of time with all the obligations of life. This juggling act: ok, if I can get a doctor’s appointment at 8:30 then if they’re on time I’ll hopefully only be about an hour and half late for work, which I can make up a little if I eat at my desk and maybe I can try to call the financial planner while working on the marketing plans for the fall books but at least I can work on the taxes on Saturday while the kid is napping.

I’m lucky in that my boss is pretty good about things like time for doctors and such. But there’s that indoctrination of the American work ethic: Work. Before.Life. I feel guilt when I don’t put in my 40 hours. I do all my work, however it happens, but when I don’t show up at a certain time or when I leave before a certain time, it bothers me. Because that’s not what we’re “supposed” to do. But life happens on work days too. Doctors and dentists and financial planners don’t work on weekends or evenings either. So unless I take one of my (very limited, very precious) PTO days, it’s this balancing act.

So I’ll continue taking the early doctor’s appointment when I can get it, and squeezing in the taxes where I can fit them, working on consulting gigs before bed, and hoping that I haven’t taken too much time from work, or my family.

You know, until doctors start working weekends.

Perpetua February 3, 2011 at 5:27 am

Holy man, you sound exactly like Wizard. He has had to get an insurance issue figured out for MONTHS, and there’s just never any time because he works until 7 and everything closes by 5 or 6.

I wish I had something helpful to say, but instead all I’ve got is second-hand commiseration. 🙂

kate February 3, 2011 at 9:17 am

You HIT the nail on the head. And you know me – sorry, I have no earth-shattering secrets or words of advice…

Ginger February 3, 2011 at 9:28 am

I have nothing enlightening to say except that I feel like I could have written this word for word. Story of my life. *Sigh.*

Lex February 3, 2011 at 2:31 pm

Ugh, I totally feel this. Doctor, dentist, insurance, taxes once my husband’s W-2 comes in, various home improvement projects… it’s all so daunting! I wish I had something more constructive or helpful to say 🙁

clara February 4, 2011 at 7:51 am


I’m sorry.

I also have nothing constructive to say. Just that. ^

Katherine February 4, 2011 at 3:40 pm

I have a 4/10 schedule which is super helpful for getting stuff done, mostly since it takes an hour to get to a Wal-Mart and almost four to do any real shopping/errands. Going back to a normal schedule will suck.

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