There’s this blogger I read. I’ve read her stuff for many years–love her style, her smarts, her wit, and her writing. I comment, I read, I interact.
I’m fairly sure she doesn’t like me.
I don’t know what it is–I don’t know if I’m not witty, funny, smart enough, or if she just has her people and doesn’t want anymore, or if she just thinks we don’t mesh. But I’m almost positive that she’s not that big on me. Not that she’s been mean, or nasty (nor do I think she would be), more…disinterested. It’s a vibe I get.
Here’s the thing though, where maybe I’m weird.
I don’t care.
Unless and until she says something to me, I’ll continue to read her stuff, comment, interact. And it seems, from my readings around the web, that I may be a weirdo for that…for not “unfollowing” or blocking her or dropping her feed like a hot potato.
But her not caring for me doesn’t diminish my enjoyment of her material. Her not interacting with me doesn’t negate my interest or ability to comment to her. (Of course, I’m not like this in real life. If I were at a function with this blogger, I wouldn’t go up to her and try and start a conversation, given the vibe I get from her. I’m not the kind of person that can take that IN PERSON. But apparently online, I can.)
I know we talk all about community and connections in the world of blogging. And honestly, those are AWESOME. I love that I’ve “met” so many interesting, thoughtful and engaged people through my blog. You all, who connect with me, are amazing and I wouldn’t trade that for anything. But the reality of it is that blogging isn’t a 1 to 1 ratio all the time. I read “big” bloggers who never comment to anyone. I read small bloggers who only comment to their friends. I follow people on Twitter who don’t follow me back. And I apparently read bloggers even when I think they don’t like me–because the content/entertainment/enjoyment of their material trumps that personal issue.
So am I weird folks? Would you keep reading someone you thought wouldn’t miss you if you were gone? Do you read/follow people that don’t reciprocate?
(ETA: I wanted to clarify one little thing–the blogger I think doesn’t like me: I know she reads me sporadically at best. My vibe is more from when I comment on HER stuff–how she responds to me in her own space. The rest of the discussion remains, but I wanted to clarify that point.)No tags for this post.