A prescription for relaxation

by Ginger on April 15, 2010

in I'm a Disaster

Last week, I went to the doctor one last time about my back. I sat with him and we went through everything: my history, the pain, the tests we had run, the xrays, what treatments I’ve been doing and where I was. At the end of it, he basically told me that my back pain was a lifestyle issue that I was just going to have to actively try to manage through ergonomic changes to my desk, attention to my posture, less time at the computer (ha!), and changing my sleeping habits. When I asked him what I could do to help me with the pain RIGHT NOW, he said:

“I don’t know. Take a vacation?”

Sounds like a prescription I can get behind. Basically the best thing my doctor thinks I can do for my back at the moment is get away from the computer screen, the iPhone screen, and the commute. So that’s what we’re going to do–I’m looking into vacation options for sometime in the next couple of weeks and we’ll attempt a technology free week.

Of course, it’s not as simple as “YAY! Vacation!”. There are a few caveats:

  • It’s got to be baby friendly. Which really means it can’t be more stressful to bring the baby than it would be to not go on vacation.
  • It can’t be too far away, because I can’t handle a plane or the car for long hours. I think we need to limit it to no more than 2 hours on a plane, or 3 hours in the car (per day).
  • It can’t be outside the US, since we don’t have time to get my passport updated or the baby a passport at all.
  • It can’t be very expensive. Yeah.

Which I think basically limits us to somewhere in California or Arizona. I’m thinking maybe a vacation rental somewhere along the coast would be good–that way we can hang with the baby without disrupting others and we could probably keep to his schedule pretty well. But what I can’t figure out is…what would we do for a week? It’s not really beach weather yet–it’s nice but not quite warm enough for a pure beachy vacation. (Hey first world problems over here, I know). What does one do on a “relaxing” vacation with a 7 month old?

I’m also struggling with a little bit of guilt about taking such a “selfish” vacation. Here’s what I mean. We have a lot of family who would like to see the kid (some of them for the first time), or see us for the first time in a long time and yet we’re going to take my very limited vacation time and not see any of them. I’m sure that’s going to go over well. Most of them live too far away (more than my 2 hour flight requirement), or they live somewhere that would be too expensive for us to “vacation” without staying with them (which I don’t want to do for a week). But that doesn’t really help my guilt issues, you know?

Issues aside, I am excited about the idea of a vacation. It may not be crazy exciting, exotic, or action packed, but it will be a break. Now I’m just trying to figure out a ridiculously last minute vacation for a family of 3 that’s within a few hours of San Diego. Anyone have ideas?

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks April 15, 2010 at 5:47 pm

You know, one of the things a pastor told us during pre-marital counseling was that as a married couple, sometimes you will have to make decisions that are good for you and not necessarily good for your family, friends, neighbors, etc. And while you want to make everyone happy, you can’t do that unless you’re happy yourself. And in your case, you’re talking about your health. You can’t mess with it. So, take a wonderful vacation with your husband and son … and explain to those you think might be disappointed. Take it as flattery that they want to see you and hope they will be understanding of your decision.

Katherine April 15, 2010 at 6:24 pm

Palm Springs, Santa Barbara, Morro Bay/San Simeon, Portland

Bluebelle April 16, 2010 at 2:10 am

You have to make choices for the sake of you and your family, you can’t always please everyone else. While it’s lovely that that want to see you, you need a chilled out break by the sounds of it – it’s so much better that you get yourself sorted. Then when you do see family you’ll be able to enjoy yourself with them.

Lizzie April 16, 2010 at 4:27 am

You’re completely entitled to a selfish vacation, especially if it concerns YOUR health and YOUR wellbeing. I hope you have a great time wherever you choose to go – keep us updated on the holiday plans 🙂

carrie meadows April 16, 2010 at 12:38 pm

Take the vacation! Do it now, before your little one can walk/run all over the place! Strap that bebe into a carrier and head for SB County- Los Olivos is really charming and usually has a few spring time festivals and things going on.

Ally April 17, 2010 at 7:18 am

A vacation sounds really lovely and you deserve it. You need to be the priority right now so you can be the best mama you can be, so chuck the guilt to the curb.

Also wanted to say that I love the new blog look!

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