Decisions, decisions

by Ginger on April 30, 2009

in I'm a Disaster

One thing I know about myself–I’m horrible at making decisions. I feel compelled to obsessively research, and dissect, and analyze until I get to a point where I just don’t care anymore and just pick the next thing I see. Of course, when I finally DO make a decision, I often then second-guess said decision until I drive myself crazy (see: why I’ve never gotten a tattoo. I’m notorious for buyers remorse).

I do that with everything–vacations, what we should have for dinner, new shoes. Hell, I did about a month’s worth of “research” and “analyzing” before I started this blog (though you’d never know it now). It drives my husband bonkers, and frankly it drives me bonkers too. I wish I could just….pick something.

Of course, this has major repercussions for my life. Take for example, my approach to healthcare. I usually obsessively search for a new doctor for weeks, until it gets to a point where I have to just go to whichever office can get me in. Then I end up sticking with them if it wasn’t too bad…and sometimes even if it was. This is how we’ve ended up with a dentist we don’t love, and no primary care physician. Luckily I like my OB office–enough to stick with them even though we’ve moved 2 towns over (although I do have moments of obsessing about this as well).

This is just one sad little example. It really does permeate almost all of my life–with one very notable exception.

Work.

See, when I’m a work, I’m a decision & opinion machine, sometimes even when I haven’t been asked. When I make a decision, I stick to it unless information or circumstances change enough to make me rethink things. I don’t hem and haw over decisions for weeks. I don’t second-guess my decisions when I do make them. I just do what I know to be right and best for the job at hand and move on.

My question–anyone have any suggestions on how to take that element from my work life and apply it to the rest of my life?

lisa @seriously. April 30, 2009 at 1:35 pm

If you can figure it out, please let me know because you just described me. I can’t make a decision on what to eat for dinner, but I am Little Miss Opinionated at work.

Katherine April 30, 2009 at 3:52 pm

You know while at work that you are not afforded the luxury of time to mull over your decisions and know to act instinctively. Plus those decisions don’t really have an affect on your personal life so you’re distanced from them and have no reason to overthink.

Most of the day to day decisions you have issue with are not going to have any lasting impact on your life, but you treat them as though they do. Try to quiet down all those thoughts and learn to listen to that instinct that gets you through the work day. You don’t have to rationalize everything you do. You are allowed to do things for no other reason than you want to.

I would also like to point out that I have seen the two of you discuss minor decisions incessently, so it isn’t just you.

Dawn May 1, 2009 at 7:01 am

Wow, that is…SO ME. It’s insane–sometimes if I can’t make a decision about something I just give up altogether.

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N.C. Winters May 1, 2009 at 3:36 pm

Yeah, it doesn’t help being married to a guy who can never seem to make up his mind about anything. Important stuff maybe, but ordinary crap? I can never decide.

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