No boys allowed

by Ginger on November 12, 2008

in Random

Tonight, I went out with a very dear friend of mine. We haven’t seen each other much lately–she’s been traveling and I’ve been..well, lazy and stuck in my own head. Tonight, though, was a great reminder to me of the power of friendship. It wasn’t earth shattering–we went to Chili’s and had some margaritas and dinner–but it was a perfect example of why girlfriends can help keep us sane.

I’ve never been the person with a ton of friends or a giant social circle. Perfectly nice acquaintances? Yes. Lots of people I know and am friendly with? Yes. But good, true friends? The kind who you can call no matter what is happening and they’ll be there for you? No. Instead, I’ve always had a very small handful of ladies who I can call my best friends.

Because there are only a few of them, and we’re busy and scattered, I sometimes fall into the trap of thinking that I don’t need a girls night out. Or that I can just share everything with my husband. Because I don’t want to bother them, or because I don’t feel like I should, or because I know they’re busy, or because I’m busy, or a million other lame reasons. I forget sometimes the absolute necessity of a girlfriend. The abject need of laughing over margaritas, and sharing that…girls only friendship.

But then, I go out with a friend. And because of that relationship, I see a new perspective that only she could have given me. And laugh about this, and reminisce about that, and tell stories of our crazy co-workers/families/lives. It’s such a release, those friendships.

I’m always reminded that I need to work harder at them after a night like tonight.

Tough Girl Kat November 13, 2008 at 5:05 am

Hey, great friends are always worth working at and always worth keeping.

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Nilsa November 13, 2008 at 7:42 am

It wasn’t until I was in a serious relationship that I realized how much work the true friendships take. Because now, it’s so easy for me to get wrapped up in life with my husband that if I didn’t make effort with my best girlfriends, those friendships would easily fall by the wayside. Glad to see you realize it takes work – because now you’ll actually make sure you stay close!

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Ally Marie November 13, 2008 at 11:53 am

I hear you, lady! Sometimes something simple is just the kick in the butt we need. I hope that you keep working on the connections with your girlfriends and have many more girls nights out. 🙂

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