A Plea, and Some Pondering

by Ginger on November 14, 2016

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I’ve tried to start this post about 100 times since Tuesday, and the words just won’t come. But I need to get them out, even if they’re not eloquent, so here we are. 


I know a lot of people who voted for Trump, and I know most* of you are good, loving people who did what you thought was best for your families and the country. I know most* of you are not racist, misogynist, xenophobic, homophobic, ableist and all the other -phobic & -ists that are being thrown out. I know that. I believe that. I have loved many of you my whole life, and I know your hearts. 

But here is my plea to you–if you truly are not those things. If you truly don’t want harm to come to people who don’t look like you, or worship like you, or love like you, or live like you, or sound like you, then I am BEGGING you to stand up for those people when they are threatened, when their lives and livelihoods and liberties are on the line. Speak up in your communities, but also speak up to your elected officials and make your voice heard. You may not think anything bad is going to happen, and maybe it won’t (though I personally think that there are plenty of signs pointing the way showing it’s likely, I understand you may not). But I’m asking you to stand up and demand better of the people you voted for if it does.

You voted for Trump. You swear it’s not because of the awful things he said and promised. Many of you don’t believe he will act on the worst things he said. You swear you’re not all those bad things people are saying about Trump voters, and I believe that of most* of you. So prove it in your actions. Hold his feet to the fire, hold your elected officials’ feet to the fire, make sure they know those awful things aren’t ok with you. Call, write, and then call and write some more when they step over the bounds of what YOU KNOW in your heart is an unacceptable line.

*yeah, some of you? I’ve seen your facebook posts and heard how you talk about minorities and women and people you consider less than you. You can go ahead and keep pretending you’re not all those terrible things just because you’ve never lynched or raped someone yourself, but you’d be wrong. I’m not even pretending I can speak to your better nature.


If you read my plea above, and your first thoughts were “stop whining you libtard,” or any variation thereof, well, it’s pretty clear where you stand.


I’ve seen a lot about whining, and sour grapes, and crybabies, about how we need to calm down, suck it up, accept him as our president, it’s not the end of the world (most often seems to be spouted from folks who swore they’d take up arms in revolution if Trump won, or who spent the last 8 years claiming that Obama wasn’t their president, funnily enough).

But the reality is that there are actual honest to goodness lives at stake here, and not just because of what a Trump administration might do at the federal level, though there’s that too. Hate crimes have increased drastically in the last week. Women are being grabbed and groped and verbally assaulted by men who now think they have that right. Swastikas have been popping up with alarming frequency. The KKK is cheering Trump’s win & his cabinet because it is normalizing their message.

As a friend said, if the KKK is cheering, something has gone very wrong. 

Obviously, the KKK has been around before now. And obviously, hate crimes, and sexual assault, and other horrible things have been around before now. And obviously, none of it is ok, then or now. But it has been given the veneer of ok, suddenly, and now it’s increasing, and that’s the problem.

This isn’t about our candidate losing. It’s about the hatred that is being normalized, and passed off as politics as usual. I refuse to be ok with that. And I’m learning to find my voice for the people who need me to speak up and say I’m not ok with that.

Are you standing up and saying “this is not ok” or are you shrugging it off? If the latter, you need to own that you don’t care about the lives of the people this endangers. 


Before you even bring it up, YES, I obviously include any attacks and threats to Trump voters and supporters in that. But that’s kind of my point. I’m talking about making sure everyone is ok, not just people who think and look and sound like me. The Golden Rule doesn’t just apply to the people who fit in your bubble, you know? I feel like that’s been lost, and that is perhaps at the crux of my worry.


Please, please, let us be better than this.

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Oh hey there

by Ginger on October 18, 2016

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Oh hi. Hey. What’s up?

I didn’t mean to disappear for 2+ months, but, ya know, oops?

Let’s catch up:

New job is good. Commute is short, coworkers are awesome, the work is right up my alley, and I’m learning a lot about a new industry, which is always fun. And yay to employment! It’s taken a while for the family to get back in the swing of having me work full time, but we’re getting in a rhythm, and it’s nice to be less stressed than I was for basically all of last year. I’ve been sick for the past few weeks (stupid immune system is just GARBAGE), but even with that, I’m happier than I’ve been in a while. I’m glad to be in a better place than I was, that’s for damn sure.

J started 2nd grade, and he’s doing great so far (unsurprisingly, said his doting mother). He loves math and reading and science, and tetherball and Pokemon and snacks. He’s in his, what, 4th year of karate, and started rec soccer this year, which he says “changed his life” (we maaaay think he needs to investigate performance of some kind, as he tends towards the overly dramatic at times), but we’re glad he’s having fun and working hard. He continues to be kind (“mommy, I’m going to take some of my Pokemon cards to [new kid he met] because he doesn’t have any. We’re not friends yet, but I thought he would like some.”), which always makes me happy, which is a good balance to all the attitude he throws out lately (“ugh, mommy, I SAID the OTHER one.”), which isn’t my favorite. But we’re getting to test our parenting muscles, I guess?

N.C. has been working like a mad man. I can’t possibly convey everything he’s been up to, but some of the highlights have been being a featured live painter at a major music festival, some massive commissions, conventions, and of course all his usual fantastic work. He boggles my mind on the regular, and I’m so glad to see his career growing. He deserves every bit of recognition he gets, and then some. But I will be glad when this upcoming convention is over, because it means things will slow down a SMIDGE for him, and that’s always good for everyone.

Sasha is still allergic to the world, and most food, poor pup. She’s just itchy allllll the time, but luckily she’s a good sport about it.

Bailey is finally starting to show his age, and it looks like he has some level of renal disease/failure happening. I’m hoping that we’ve got him in a maintenance mode where he’s comfortable and not in pain and that he’ll continue to be my asshole cat for years to come.

Beyond that, we’re all mostly just head down, getting through the day to day, trying to survive the horrors of the election cycle, and catching up on the stuff that languished in the last year.

There, I think we’re all caught up now. What’s going on with you?

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Good news everyone!

by Ginger on August 9, 2016

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For those of you who might have missed it on Twitter or FB: guess what guys?

I got a J.O.B.


A real, honest to goodness, they will give me money in exchange for my work and brain and things FULL TIME JOB.

I think it’s going to be a good one too, not an “I’ll take whatever I can get at this point” job. It’s a senior marketing manager position at a stand up paddle board/surf board company, with some real meaty marketing work and management work, both of which I’m super excited about. My new boss is someone I think I’ll be able to learn a lot from, and I’m super excited about that too. We seem to have a pretty good rapport, so I’m all around excited on that front.  (I’m also pretty excited that the office is just over 4 miles from my house, not gonna lie). EXCITED, clearly.

(And you guys are all excited that maybe I’ll finally have something else to talk about ?. I know I am).

I start in a week, which will be almost exactly one year from when my last job & I parted ways (11 days would make a year, but who’s counting?), almost exactly one year from my birthday (12 days, but who’s counting?). 36 has, legit, been the one of the hardest years of my life, of my marriage, of my career, and whooooooooooo boy will I be glad to put it in the rear view and see what 37 has to offer. I know this past year has given me (and will continue to reveal, I’m sure) a lot of good lessons and things I need to improve on and the like, but I am still glad to finally (FINALLY) be close to the light at the end of this particular tunnel. I’m excited about the prospects of what’s on the horizon, and the challenges ahead (and a paycheck, let’s be honest here), and of rebuilding a lot of what this past year has torn down.

I have a lot of big plans for this next year is what I’m saying and I’m SO EXCITED to move forward.

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by Ginger on June 28, 2016

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Because it’s about how much brain power I have lately.


Reason being: The kid is *finally* out of school–his last day was last week, which seems really late. However, we’re all missing school already, as I suspected might be the case. I’m not super comfortable in the SAHM role, and the kid much MUCH MUCH prefers the structure & stability of school. We’ll do a couple of camps, and we have some family visits planned, but…oof y’all, it’s got the potential to be a loooooong summer for everyone involved.


Our 10 year anniversary was last month. It wasn’t the celebration we had envisioned for so long (someday Italy, someday), but we were able to spend some time, just the two of us, thinking back on the past 10 years. It seems bananas that it’s already been 10 years, and that it’s only been 10 years. This year has been BY FAR the hardest of our marriage, but there’s still no one in the world I’d rather have by my side in the good stuff and the crappy stuff.


Speaking of crappy stuff, I’m still looking for work. Unemployment benefits ended last month, which sucks, & I wrapped up my last existing freelance client a few weeks ago, so I’m just in the search search search mode. I’m working w/a few recruiters, and I even had a really good interview today (though I’ve learned not to get my hopes up), so hopefully something will turn up soon.  In the meantime, if you know anyone looking for a marketing pro, send ’em my way!


Oh, and may I just say, THANK GOODNESS for N.C.’s business.


We’ve changed up some of our eating habits, after some not fantastic cholesterol numbers a few weeks back (based on the amount of butter we were going through before, it really was time for a change). There’s a lot more to it than that, but it’s been good (and eye opening) to reevaluate things. I’ve been slowly but steadily losing weight, and I’m starting to get into a groove of what works and what doesn’t (though I’m still working on it).

In that vein, if you’ve got any really exceptional fish, vegetarian, or low saturated fat recipes hanging around, please share!


Speaking of, you should really make these sweet potatoes (I recommend sprinkling with a little bit of cotija cheese) and these black bean tacos (I throw in some fresh jalapeno & a splash of liquid from some pickled jalapenos instead of chipotle powder. But it’s not necessary). But maybe not together. Or, you know, you do you, I’m not the boss.


We’re reading Harry Potter (the illustrated version) with Jackson right now, and oh it’s just the best best best. I’m convinced at least 1/3 of the details are going over his head at any given time, but I don’t even care. He’s sure Hagrid is the nicest person ever, and that Malfoy is SO NOT NICE, and he is convinced that Snape is the MEANEST (we’ll have to come to terms with Snape’s complications in time kiddo, but for now, you’re right, he’s just the meanest teacher ever), and yep, sharing this with him (even if he’s not getting ALL of it) is just the best.


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Things I am grateful for, right now

by Ginger on May 24, 2016

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The internet.

The amazing people I’m lucky to call my friends.

Hulu. Netflix. Amazon Prime.


Antibiotics and how quickly strep responds to them.

My otherwise healthy kid.

Health insurance (thanks Obama!).

Diet Coke.

My guys.

Group texts that make me laugh and laugh.


Cozy socks.

The village we’re slowly building here.

Cookie butter ice cream.

Good books.

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